The topic of this post might be sounding funny, but it happens in offices that due to office politics, wrong expectations, and even assumptions, this comes to people as a surprise when their colleague advances faster than them, The promotion or a pay increase that they were expecting gets to someone else sitting next to them. Now how to deal with such a scenario, and what exactly should be our behaviour in such circumstances. Ideally we should take it as a healthy competition and try to improve our performance rather then venting out our emotions to that colleague or getting involved in a different kind of office politics.
Following are some of the alternatives that can be employed when a coworker is advancing faster than you:–
Pause briefly:-
If you feel hurt or angry about losing out on a prize project or big salary increase, stop to think. Give yourself time to process your emotions.
Assess your situation
Be honest with yourself. Maybe office politics have placed you at a disadvantage, or perhaps you would benefit by aligning your expectations with your current qualifications.
Clarify your goals
This could be a blessing in disguise because success takes many forms. Figure out whether you’re aiming for the executive suite or whether you’d prefer to stay in a job you already enjoy, free from extra paperwork and supervisory responsibilities.
Gather resources
Wherever you’re headed, ensure you’re prepared. This could be a reminder to find a mentor or sign up for continuing education courses.
Vent carefully
Talking the situation over is wise, but be selective about your audience. Pour out your soul to family and friends outside of the workplace.
Find someone in your network who can understand your professional dilemma while being removed from office gossip.
Avoid social media
It’s especially important to watch what you say online. Check that your comments are safe for work. Edit anything that could sound like complaining or second guessing management decisions.
Move on
At some point you’ll want to decide whether you’re better off dealing with the situation in your workplace or finding a new position. Broaden your options by updating your resume, and look for new opportunities.
Seek balance
If you’re having difficulty bouncing back from any perceived rejection, you may be placing too much emphasis on your job. Remember that your worth is not defined by your job title.
Steps to Take with Your Colleagues
Offer congratulations
Let your coworkers know you’re happy for their good fortune. Be sincere and enthusiastic. Offer your assistance for helping them adjust to their new roles.
Talk with your boss
It’s helpful to find out where you stand. Tactfully ask your boss for a meeting. Steer clear of questioning their decisions and listen with an open mind to their reasoning.
Support your team
Moping around will just make you feel worse. Besides, you may give your boss the impression that they were correct about any limitations they see in you.
Learn from others
Welcome feedback from your boss and colleagues so you can keep growing on the job. Pay special attention to employees who are moving up the ladder. You may discover what qualities and accomplishments your boss really values so you can adjust your performance as needed.
Promote yourself
It’s easy to be overlooked if management is swamped with their own concerns. Use your annual reviews and other occasions to call attention to how you add value to the company.